Matt and I have rarely wondered “Why us?” when thinking about Olivia’s diagnosis. Even at the beginning, we quickly turned from “Why did this happen to us?” to “Why not?” and “What for?”. It’s something I’ve thought of over and over and over.
What if she had been born into a family who didn’t want her?
What if she had been born into a family who couldn’t care for her?
What if she had been born into a family who didn’t take her to the doctor, therapy, early intervention and school?
What if she had been born into a family that didn’t read her books, feed her good food, enrich her life in numerous ways?
What if she had been born into a family that didn’t love her because of the small piece of chromosome she’s missing?
When you start to think about what could have happened, and focus on why it happened to you in a different way, it’s easy to see the why instead of the “Why me?”.
I think about other children that are out there that weren’t lucky enough to be born into a family full of life and full of love. I think about how lucky we are that we’ve had this amazing gift given to us and that we didn’t waste it. We don’t spend time dwelling on how unfair it is…because it’s not. It happened for a reason.
She was given to us because a higher power knew we would love her unconditionally, we would care for her greatly, we would move heaven and earth to give her what she needs. We were chosen because we are the perfect family for her. You want to know something? I’d take 10 Olivias. Any day. Any time.
She is a true gift. She is more than just a girl. She is a lesson for all of us on why we are here, how we should love and how we should live. I never ask why. I simply look up and say “Thank You”.