The kids and I had a playdate last week during Spring Break. I’ve always been really friendly with this particular mom but we’d never had the opportunity to hang out together. We finally made a date and stuck to it. I got to know my friend even better and found out that she’s super cool. She’s in an Indian chanting band where she sings and her husband plays a sitar-like instrument. They own a yoga studio and hold yoga retreats. She is also a massage therapist. I love these kind of playdates—where you find out more about this woman you know from school functions!
As our playdate is ending, she says “I’ve always really wanted to give you a free massage for all you do for the kids at school. How does that sound?” Normally, I would have insisted that, no, she didn’t need to do that and talked her out of it. But this time? I said “Yes! I would love that!” Of course I assured her that she didn’t need to do this for me and it wasn’t necessary, but she insisted that she really wanted to. So I made the appointment.
I almost backed out. I felt guilty that I was getting this massage for free from this new friend. I felt guilty that I think part of the reason she offered is because she thinks I do so much for Olivia. She’s also very thin (think yoga/vegetarian!) and so I was uncomfortable thinking she would think I was huge. I felt guilty taking the time out to do this.
But I did it anyway.
I went, I didn’t pay (although I did get her a gift card to a local ice cream place b/c I knew she wouldn’t take cash) and I thoroughly enjoyed myself. I was so relaxed afterwards that I kept thinking I need to win the lottery so I could do this every week.
I think I learned a lesson though. I need to let people do things for me. It’s ok to ask for help or to take help when it’s offered. How does that saying go? “When the student’s ready, the teacher show’s up” or something like that? Between my friendly chat with my friend last week and now this friend’s kind offer of treating me to a massage, I feel like I’ve learned.
It’s ok to ask for help. It’s ok to do things just for me.