Double Date

This weekend I did something I’ve never done before. As you know I’ve been working hard on feeling good about myself. My word for 2011, is DONE, remember? I’ve been doing really well. I start every morning by rolling out of bed and saying something positive about myself instead of pinching the fat around my middle. If I catch myself saying something nasty to myself in my head, I admonish myself out loud and make myself say something nice in its place. It’s a good thing I work from home, huh? Otherwise they might have me committed for talking to myself. All week I was good. And you know what? I felt really great. I didn’t have one day where I felt like shit. I felt great. Every. Single. Day. It was bliss. And all that time and space in my head that was wasted with negative thoughts made room for many more uplifting and positive thoughts and ideas. I just hope I can keep it up.

For my birthday in April of 2010 (that’s 9 months ago if you’re not a math guru) I received a spa gift card. And I haven’t used it yet. Excuses, excuses, but the fact is I didn’t make time for myself. So I promised myself the next opportunity I had to use it, I would. So I did. I went and had a spa pedicure and a manicure. I took Olivia’s ipad with me and played games and surfed the net while my feet were soaked, buffed, dipped in hot wax and polished. Then I chatted with the nice woman while she did the same to my hands. It was heavenly. And I deserved it!!

Saturday came and my Mom took the kids for a few hours in the afternoon. Even though I had treated myself the day before, I still felt as though I needed to do something fun just for me. Matt went to a beer tasting with some friends so I was alone. Sure there was laundry and work to be done, but that’s not what I needed. Guess what I did? I went and saw a movie. All by myself. I got popcorn even!! I sat alone and enjoyed 2 hours of thriller-filled bliss watching Natalie Portman in Black Swan while making myself sick on the salty goodness of the popcorn. It’s my new favorite thing…to go see a movie I want to see by myself. I loved it. I didn’t feel stupid like I thought I would. I just felt happy. Because remember? I’m DONE with caring what others think. So I sat alone. Wonderfully alone. For 2 hours. It was awesome. (Thanks, as always, Mom!!)

When was the last time you took yourself on a date? Maybe it’s time!


15 responses to “Double Date

  1. Good for you! Glad you took some enjoyable ‘me’ time.

  2. Your mani pedi sounds amazing! Going to the movies by myself sounds amazing too!! Thanks for sharing this!!

  3. I adore seeing movies by myself – hearing about your adventure makes me want to go soon. And I, too, am sitting on a gift certificate for a massage. Thanks for putting my butt in gear – I’m calling to make the appointment today. Here’s to Mommy-time! Good for you!

  4. Good for you! I have not taken myself on a date in a long time. too long! I am inspired by you! I love to watch movies by myself and I think I may find an opportunity to take myself very soon because of you. Thanks, hun!

  5. Oh goodness! You know… I received a movie pass years ago, when I was still available to get out easily to a movie… only I have yet to use it. Would you believe I haven’t sat in a theater for over 3 years? Yes. Too easy to watch from home.

    All that to say that I keep checking if it’s still valid, and it is! Only… what movie to pick???? My husband and I can never agree, and getting out together is tricky… so I keep thinking… I WILL JUST GO ALONE! And, so you reminded me… I still have that card, and I’ve never done the alone-at-the-theater thing before. I think I will have to make a date with myself soon!

  6. I also love going to movies by myself. Mothers day two years ago, I saw two movies by myself in one afternoon. It was my husband’s gift to me and it was WONDERFUL. Like you, I couldn’t possibly care less what others think of me sitting in the theater by myself. It’s one more way to be kind to ourselves.

  7. I am so proud of you! Well done. I have never been to the cinema alone, I think I may just treat myself x

  8. oh man. i am SO taking your lead on this one. and is it weird that one of the first thoughts i had was the snl skit with stuart smalley… “i’m good enough, i’m smart enough, and dogginit…people like me!” 😉

    i really need to take myself out on a date to see the new harry potter movie before it’s no longer the NEW harry potter movie.

  9. What a brilliant idea!! Did you love Black Swan? I heard it got great reviews. I will have to follow your foot steps and take my self out! I am so glad that you were able to enjoy the time to your self! Sometimes it is just what the doctor ordered huh?!?

  10. Hmmmmm… When’s the last time I treated ME to something special??? Wow… If I admit to that… Well, let’s just say it’s been a REALLY long time! I like the idea of taking yourself out to a movie! And girl, you are AWESOME – you BETTER have treated yourself to popcorn!

  11. Glad you got some me time. Black Swan is definitely on my movie watching list. I can’t wait for my own me time!

  12. Love, love, love this post and your done-ness! You are an inspiration!

  13. Good for you! I too am working on this. I haven’t been as successful as you, but am getting there.

  14. CrystalBurnworth

    I would’ve went with you lady…and just like in Harry Potter, I wouldn’t have talked…I would’ve even sat 2-3 seats from you if that would be better 😉

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