As you know, Matt and I have two boys. One of them still thinks the sun rises and sets over me…the other? He thinks I’m the crap on the bottom of his shoe.
Ok, maybe in his heart he doesn’t think that. But that’s how he acts most of the time. And it’s making me nuts. Absolutely nuts.
He is constantly pushing my buttons. I’m not allowed to show him affection anymore. Even inside my house. It’s not like I’m trying to kiss him in front of the school bus or anything. I barely get a mumbled “I love you too” anymore. I’m the meanest Mom in the world, he hates me and, frankly, I can’t take it anymore. He even called me “lazy” yesterday b/c I wouldn’t jump on the trampoline AFTER I JUMPED ON THE TRAMPOLINE, PLAYED FOOTBALL/SOCCER/BASEBALL/BOCCE BALL FOR 2 HOURS!! I almost lost it.
Enter my Child Whisperer.
It’s my husband.
He is so good. I’m trying so desperately to get him to guest post on here once a week because he is so good with discipline and parenting and being a good husband but he’s resisting. He’s right every damn time I come to him with a discipline issue I’m having.
(Except for Olivia…we have no power over her when it comes to discipline!!)
So I called him today after Gabe was disrespectful and rude before getting on the bus (over wearing a damn coat) because I just feel lost with this lately. I told Matt about him calling me lazy yesterday and some other things that he’s been doing that are driving me crazy. I told him that I yelled yesterday about the “lazy” and this morning about the coat.
He said that’s the wrong thing to do. (Disclaimer: I’m an Aries and NO ONE tells me what NOT to do…except Matt. It doesn’t bother me at all when he gives me advice. Ever.) He said Gabe is looking for a reaction. That he has learned that words like “lazy” and “I hate you” and such get me wound up and upset. And that’s what he’s looking for. This makes no sense to me, but I realize it’s true. So Matt and I are coming up with consequences when he does these things. It will be a simple “You are not allowed to talk to me that way. Time out.” We’ve decided not to take things away because, sadly, my kids have so many things/interests, that doesn’t work. So we’ve decided to try a regular, old Time Out. Hopefully that will work.
But I’m still sad about it.
I’m sad that he’s acting like this. I’m sad that he’s disrespecting me. I’m sad he doesn’t let me kiss and hug him anymore. I don’t understand it. I don’t like it. But I’m going to learn to deal with it because I’m not going to let my boys grow up thinking I’m crap.
Thank goodness I have my very own Child Whisperer, right?
Those of you that have pre-teen/teenage boys, what do you experience? How do you handle it? I’d love to hear some thoughts.
It’s a good thing he’s cute. And I love him to pieces.