Some Days You Gotta Dance

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Olivia is officially driving me nuts. She’s going through one of those phases where she does everything and anything to cause trouble and annoy the sh** out of everyone around her. Taking all the clothes down from her closet, emptying drawers, turning her TV up to the maximum volume, pooping in the bathtub, pinching, hitting, pretending she can’t hear you…and I’m not even going to discuss the turds on the stairs. I’m about at my wits end. I had a breakdown last night where I just cried and cried. I bawled during the wedding scene of Father of the Bride on Sunday because we won’t get to experience that. I even had a moment of “Why Me?” on Sunday. Why did Fate decide that I needed this lifelong lesson in patience? Why did Fate decide that she shouldn’t be “normal”? Why? Why? Why?

All of this to let all of you know out there, especially those who have kids with special needs, that even the most positive of us have days where we just can’t take it. Where we need a break. Where we ask why. Where we cry. Because that’s how we deal. How else would we make it through this crazy life if we didn’t break down once in a while? I certainly don’t know. It doesn’t mean I love her any less…it just means I need a break. That is totally normal…and totally ok.

You know what I do to feel better? I dance. I turn on the music and dance. I get silly with the kids, I jump around, I dance like only a midwestern, white girl can…like a fool. It makes me feel better if only for a minute or two. So, to all my moms of typical kids or those with special needs, I ask that you dance with me today. OK? I need it.

Some Days You Gotta Dance by the Dixie Chicks
It was about five ’til five on Friday
We were all getting ready to go
And the boss man started screaming
And his veins began to show
He said you and you come with me
’cause you’re gonna have to stay
My heart was thumping I was jumping
I had to get away

Some days you gotta dance
Live it up when you get the chance
‘Cause when the world doesn’t make no sense
And you’re feeling just a little too tense
Gotta loosen up those chains and dance

Well I was talking with my baby
Over a small glass of tea
He asked a loaded question
He said now how do you feel about me
My mind was racin’ I was pacin’
But the words just wouldn’t come
And there was only one thing left do
I feel it comin’ on

Some days you gotta dance
Live it up when you get the chance
‘Cause when the world doesn’t make no sense
And you’re feeling just a little too tense
Gotta loosen up those chains and dance

15 responses to “Some Days You Gotta Dance

  1. The overwhelming feeling of complete lack of control is a powerful thing.

    My mantra these past couple of years as been “Thy will be done” just because, sometimes, there’s nothing left to say.

    Good luck.

  2. This is me doing my best running man for you!!! Dance it off… It actually makes me think that you are completely human when I read a post like this. So much of the time, you have this amazingly optimistic attitude. I think occassionally we need the down also. You deserve to say why me sometimes. We all do it. Those wells of why are what allows you to garner the strength to climb back out-to reach the top again. You’ll get there. I know it. You can’t keep a good optimist down for long.

  3. please excuse my extra s in occasionally… yikes.

  4. Your post really struck a chord with me this morning. I’ve been feeling challenged beyond belief with my own kids lately.

    Motherhood is seriously the hardest thing you can do in life. Dancing is a great way to break up the norm. Am definitely going to give this a try! Thanks.


  5. Thanks for the great idea! I am going to need to dance alot I think. I’ll be thinking of you when I do!

  6. Dancing is my refuge as well. Bring it on, mama!

  7. Breakin’ it down with ya’ in Nshville sister! Dance on!

  8. I will have to try this. I am glad to know other people are experiencing some of the same things I do.

  9. I am glad that you can dance and sing!! We could all use that somedays. You are an awesome mom!

  10. It’s on these days that I feel like the worst mother in the world and that surely I am the only mom who breaks down, yells, freaks out, and loses it. It’s good to know I am not the only one.

    I’ll dance with you!!!

  11. Hi there – I hate to think of you crying but I know you will get through it!

    I just bought a poster that says Keep Calm and Carry On –

    It is going to be my new mantra!

    Hang in there.

  12. You should see the video for “Giddy on Up” by Laura Bell Bundy. My girls (3.5 and 16 months) and I dance to this every morning when it’s on CMT. My 3.5 yr old and I “try” to do the dance. I am a crappy dancer and I completely suck, but dancing with my two little ones during work makes my day. It is a great 5 minute break in my morning. I do my dance and then I quickly rush back to my computer. Sometimes I even do it with my headset on! Yikes! Maybe one day I’ll turn the webcam on and have my K/1 students do it with me…okay, maybe not. But you are so right, sometimes you just have to dance! It always makes me feel better.

  13. I’m dancin’ right there next to ya!
    I have the same mantra in my house and now the boys just roll their eyes when mommy turns up the music and dances while making dinner. The cool thing is they often end up in the kitchen dancing with me.
    It’s truly amazing how it somehow does make everything better!!! Hang in there…

  14. I’m dancing as fast as I can for you. Hang in there.

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